Funeral services resume with limitations

Buddy Rushing (left), funeral director of Milner & Orr Funeral Home, waits to greet family members during services Wednesday afternoon as Paul Faughn, funeral assistant, and Charles Offutt, funeral manager, open the doors at the first on-site funeral held at Milner & Orr since March because of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Drive by visitations, small, intimate services, video messages and online streaming of funerals.

Amid months of social distancing and government-mandated shutdowns, death in the time of COVID-19 has meant mourners not only deal with the loss of a loved one but also the loss of some support and affection, at least in person.

“I think it’s been very hard on the families,” said Andrea Orr, co-owner of Milner & Orr Funeral Home.

“I think that they (usually) receive so much support from the people that come and tell the story of their loved one.”

Though the personal touch has been on hold, replaced by socially distant expressions of sympathy, Gov. Andy Beshear allowed funeral homes to reopen at a reduced capacity Wednesday, and some facilities held their first in-person visitations in months.

Orr said visitations will be spread out over a few hours with markers denoting the required distance between guests and chapels allowed to seat only 33% of their usual capacity.

Dwayne Stice, a funeral director at Collier Funeral Home in Benton, said funeral home workers are breathing “a collective sigh of relief.”

“We feel that we can serve our families better” after reopening, he said.

“We feel like they should be served as we would want to be served ourselves.”

Both Stice and Orr said they will continue to offer socially distant options like drive-by visitations and online streaming of services, and will actively work to protect the health of families using their services. That includes discouraging physical displays of affection like shaking hands or giving hugs.

“We laugh about coming up with new and creative ways to do elbow bumps,” Stice said.

Jenna Wainer, co-owner of Morgan’s Funeral Home in Princeton, said she’s found it hard not to give those personal gestures to people going through grief.

“Whenever someone you see is hurting, you just want to love on them,” she said.

“We truly feel like our job is to be here for families no matter what crisis is going on.”

Wainer said she’s seen families coping well with the restrictions and appreciating more intimate goodbyes, but said it has been difficult for some to decide on which small number of people to invite.

She said she appreciates the gradual reopening, within guidelines set out by the Funeral Directors Association of Kentucky, for the sake of allowing families to grieve their losses in the way that best suits them.

“No matter what’s going on the world, pandemic or not, we have to be here for each family, because they only have one chance to get this right,” Wainer said.

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