Dear Annie: I’m in the process of grieving my husband, who died unexpectedly from a heart attack recently.
We met at 17 and never left each other’s arms; I fell madly in love with him at first sight.
We had 40 years together, a blissful beautiful marriage.
Now that he is gone my heart aches for him. I’m barely coping. I often have panic attacks and just feel very fearful all the time. My husband was my rock, my protector, my everything. My life seems worthless without him. My two sons, ages 12 and 14, constantly ask me am I OK, and I say yes so they don’t worry. But honestly, I’m drowning in sorrow.
Do you have any suggestions for online grief counseling? — Totally Broken
Dear Broken: There are no words for me to properly express how sorry I am for your loss. PsychologyToday.com has a comprehensive database of therapists. On the homepage, click “Find a therapist”; then enter your ZIP code and hit enter. You’ll be shown a list of therapists in your area. Click the “Issues” filter just above the results, and select “Grief.” Look for therapists who have “Offers online therapy” listed beneath their contact information.
Another online resource I’d recommend is the website Refuge in Grief, which is run by a grief counselor who also lost her husband suddenly. Start at this page: refugeingrief.com/life-gone-sideways.
Dear Annie: Thank you so much for mentioning the “It’s OK That You’re Not OK” book. I think I have finally found a perspective that will support my grieving the loss of Elizabeth, my wife of 30 years. — Charles in Greensboro, NC
Dear Charles: I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear Elizabeth, but I’m glad that the book has resonated with you, as it has with me.
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